Locktober Reflection #30
Tonight, I had my neighbor Michael over for dinner. Nothing unusual, you might think – but Michael and I share a small secret, or rather, a shared passion: chastity, and a mutual love of submission and obedience.
We first met online about a year and a half ago, and since then, we’ve been meeting regularly – cooking together, talking, laughing, listening to music, checking out other locked bois or Doms online, and simply enjoying each other’s company. You could say we’ve created our own little mini chastity social every few weeks.
This evening, on the penultimate day of Locktober 2025, made me reflect a bit more deeply on what companionship means within the context of chastity. I’ve always been an open, communicative person – I enjoy meeting new people, exchanging ideas, learning from others, and broadening my perspective. But as someone who truly lives chastity as a lifestyle, it’s something else entirely to spend time with people who understand what it’s like to live this way day after day.
What makes it even more special is that, by pure coincidence, Michael lives right across the street. We can actually meet in person – not just on a screen. Over time, I’ve met many wonderful people online who share my interest in chastity and cage-wearing, but most of them live far away. That means our contact usually happens through messages, calls, or video chats. Having someone nearby who really gets it feels like a gift. Tonight reminded me just how good it feels to spend time with someone who shares your interests – to talk, to laugh, and to simply enjoy the moment together.
What I particularly appreciate is how effortlessly our conversations flow, even when they turn explicit or revolve around sexual topics. There’s no awkwardness, no judgment, no fear of saying too much. Instead, there’s ease, trust, and a genuine sense of closeness – all the ingredients of real camaraderie, even if, in our case, it’s purely platonic.
From my own experience, I can only encourage every locked sub not to shy away from finding another locked boi as a friend or companion – someone you can meet with, talk to, and share experiences with regularly. Of course, I know that many aim to eventually find a Keyholder, Dom, Sir, Master, or Mistress. But if that’s not possible – at least for now – don’t hesitate to look for connection elsewhere.
For many locked subs and bois, the ultimate dream might be to belong to a dominant person. But that doesn’t mean we can’t also form meaningful friendships with other lockees. In fact, I’d say it’s even more important – especially if you one day find yourself owned – to still have friends who understand this side of you. It can be incredibly grounding and fulfilling to share thoughts and experiences with someone who understands submission – not just the act, but the emotions beneath it.
And as this Locktober comes to an end, maybe that’s what it was all about – not endurance or denial, but connection. The reminder that even in chastity, we’re never truly alone when we dare to share a part of ourselves with someone who understands.