My First Folsom Europe - or: How I Became Host of Germany's First Chastity Social

It’s been exactly a week since I experienced Folsom Europe for the very first time. In this piece, I want to share what it felt like to dive into this event - which brings together such a wide mix of kinksters in Berlin every year - as a newcomer, and how I unexpectedly ended up hosting the very first Chastity Social in Germany.

I’ll admit, I started writing this several times over the past few days but kept stumbling. Putting my impressions and thoughts into words wasn’t easy at first. Maybe because the Folsom Europe I had imagined beforehand turned out to be so different from the reality I encountered. What became clear to me last weekend is this: Folsom Europe is, of course, a space where all kinds of fetishes and kinks are celebrated with joy and abandon. But just as important - maybe even more so - is the sense of community, of being together with people who share the same passions.

First Impressions in Berlin

Arriving in Berlin on Friday around noon, I checked into my hotel and headed straight for the Nollendorfkiez with its shops, bars, and cafés. It didn’t take long to realise: this weekend is unlike any other in Berlin. Even in such an open city, you rarely find so many kink and fetish lovers gathered in one place. I’d never seen Motzstraße so crowded: shops and boutiques bursting at the seams, pop-up bars on the sidewalks, DJs spinning, and an atmosphere that was cheerful, buzzing, and a little charged with anticipation. It honestly reminded me of Pride weekends I’ve been to, only with a different flavour.

Naturally, I had to stop by RoB Berlin, where my friend Chris from KINK3D spent two days fitting well over a hundred cages. As a chastity enthusiast, it was amazing to see how much interest there now is in getting a high-quality cage, how casually people tried on different models right there in public, and how the topic is becoming more visible and normalised in the scene. What more could a lockee ask for?

And of course, it wasn’t hard to strike up conversations - chatting, exchanging experiences, and finally meeting people in person I’d only known online until then. That was one of the most exciting parts of the weekend: putting faces to profiles, hearing their voices, feeling their energy, and connecting directly about our experiences and lifestyles.

How the Chastity Social Was Born

All of this made me look forward to Saturday with a mix of excitement and nerves, because that evening I was set to become a host myself: launching the very first Chastity Social in Germany. But how did it come to that?

Back in July, I was invited to London to join a panel discussion during Recon’s annual Fetish Week London, where I spoke about being a locked boi in chastity. After the talk, and in the days that followed, people kept asking me (once they found out I was from Germany) whether I’d be planning something during Folsom Europe in Berlin. At first, I thought the idea was absurd. Chastity had become a real passion for me over the past two years, and I knew I was reaching some people with my content, but me, of all people - a total newcomer to Folsom - hosting an event? Surely someone else was already doing that.

And yet… the thought wouldn’t leave me. Especially after attending the LOCKED Chastity Social in New York in August 2024, which planted the idea that Germany really needed something like this too.

So one evening I gathered my courage and emailed the Folsom Europe organisers to ask whether there was already a chastity social planned. (I was convinced there must be!) To my surprise, there wasn’t. Instead, they encouraged me to set one up myself. I paused, then thought: Well, I guess it’s really up to me.

From there, things moved quickly. I found a venue in Segunda Casa, which - despite an already packed schedule - was willing to host us for an hour during the street fair. I had no budget, so I designed a flyer myself and posted it across the platforms where I’m active in the chastity community.

The early responses were encouraging, but doubts lingered. Was there really enough interest in Germany to justify a separate event? Would anyone show up while the street fair was still happening? Would the word “chastity” alone be enough to draw people in?

Doubts and Discoveries

Late Friday night, after a nightcap at Prinzknecht (which felt like the unofficial hub of the weekend, where everyone seemed to gather), I lay in bed wondering: Was this really such a good idea, or would it just end up being me and the friends I was already hanging out with? Then I reminded myself: what’s the worst that could happen? Even if only a few show up, at least I tried. That thought let me drift off, nervous but calm.

Saturday morning was, of course, all about the Street Fair - the highlight of Folsom Europe. I threw on my fetish gear and wandered Fuggerstraße, taking in the stages, the vendors, the booths, the energy. The mood was playful and charged, but what struck me was the balance: everyone seemed mindful that, in a residential neighbourhood, there are limits to how far things can go. Once again, I felt the social side: the reunions, the conversations, the community... all of this was actually more central than the sexual play itself.

The First Chastity Social in Germany

By the time I headed to Segunda Casa, my nerves had returned. But when I walked in, I was stunned: people were already there waiting. Paula, the owner, even told me someone had shown up an hour early by mistake. More and more people arrived, the bar filled up, and what began with a little shyness quickly turned into buzzing conversations. People introduced themselves, compared cages, shared experiences, and laughed together. Some told me they’d been wishing for an event like this for years and were grateful I had finally made it happen. That really touched me. I know all too well how lonely chastity can sometimes feel, and hearing others’ journeys - their excitements, their struggles - was powerful.

At some point, I realised the bar was completely packed, with even more people spilling out onto the street. I lost count, but I’d say 40–50 people came in total - far more than I’d ever expected. No group photo, unfortunately, but we did manage a pretty iconic group cage-check!

I was especially thrilled that my friend Peter Cage stopped by. With his LOCKED event at Rockbar in New York, Peter created one of the very first Chastity Socials nearly one and a half years ago. When I attended last year and got to know him, he became both mentor and inspiration for bringing something like this to Germany. I’ll always be grateful for that.

Looking Ahead

Looking back, my only regret is not having enough time to talk to everyone. There were even people I’d been chatting with online for months whom I somehow missed. That’s a little frustrating - but it also motivates me to keep going. And judging by the many messages I received afterwards - people saying how much they enjoyed the atmosphere and how much they hope for more - it’s clear to me that spaces like this are essential. Not just at Folsom, but all year round.

Too often, we retreat into isolation with our kinks. I know that feeling well - I once believed I was completely alone with my desires, that I didn’t belong, and I feared I’d always remain on the outside. But I was lucky to find people who guided me into the community, step by step. Now, I feel it’s my turn to do the same: to welcome others, to be a guide, a supporter, a fellow traveller.

That’s why I’m more motivated than ever to keep creating spaces for our chastity community - spaces where we can connect, share, learn, laugh, and, yes, enjoy. Ideas for future events are already forming, though still too vague to announce. What I can say for certain is this: hosting a Chastity Social brings me immense joy. Honestly, it almost feels like a calling.

So yes - I’m determined to continue, to expand, and to establish this format here in Germany. And if reading this has sparked your interest in joining one day, follow me on social media so we can hopefully meet in person soon.

Until then, take care - and remember: Chastity isn’t just about restraint, it’s also about connection.

See you soon,
Freely Locked Chastity Boi