Locktober Reflection #2

Chastity and strength… two terms that at first glance might seem to contradict each other… or maybe not at all?

When I think about what it really means to wear a chastity cage long-term, strength belongs just as much to the virtues required for it as courage, determination, or devotion.

The first thing that comes to mind is mental strength. Being locked means, above all else, resisting certain (sexual) temptations. Whoever locks up – whether voluntarily or by order – automatically gives up control over their sexual organ. It’s almost as if it no longer exists. That demands strength in the form of courage.

And courage is needed again once the cage is no longer just for home, but part of daily life – at work, at the gym, in leisure. That requires not only courage, but also confidence.

I wrote about this just yesterday. When I first started with chastity, I was terrified that people at work might notice my cage. At the beginning, I could never have imagined being locked for a full day. The fear of being “discovered” and exposed for my love of cages was simply too big.

Today I handle it much more calmly – not only because I’ve grown stronger and more confident, but also because I’ve learned over the years that many people have never even come across chastity as a fetish. That makes it harder for them to recognize what feels so obvious to us in the community – after all, don’t we all love a good old cage print?

When I think of strength, I also think of willpower. Chastity challenges us here on many levels: discipline (not giving in to temptation), and for those permanently locked, endurance – to avoid growing tired of the cage. (Yes, that can happen… and if it does, there’s nothing wrong with taking a break.)

And of course, self-control plays a huge role. For me, that started back in 2024, when after a few months of being permanently locked, I wanted more. The cage itself had begun to feel almost normal. So I decided to give up orgasms altogether and fully deny myself – not because I had to, but simply because I wanted to.

I wanted to challenge myself, to see how long my stamina would last, how strong my determination to resist temptation really was. I’d developed a fierce ambition to live up to the idea of being a good locked boi.

Looking back, I can say that strength is always present in chastity – and if you lean into it, it can even help you grow stronger. It’s a fascinating realization I only fully grasped through reflection.

So, a big thank-you to the person who suggested this word—and see you tomorrow for the next deep dive!