Locktober Reflection #12

How sexy is chastity, really? That’s the question I want to explore a little more closely in today’s reflection. Especially now during Locktober, many online platforms (at least that’s true for me) are overflowing with locked and caged content. And yes – I admit it (I think I’ve said this before somewhere): a male body wearing a cage is, to me, always incredibly sexy and arousing.

But I also find myself sexier in a way since I started wearing my cages. I think that has a lot to do with the fact that chastity has given me a completely different daily structure than I had before. I’m often far more motivated to get the best out of myself – both in terms of training and nutrition – which, in turn, naturally boosts my self-confidence.

Maybe that feeling also has to do with the thought that the cage I’m wearing is not something ordinary or “normal.” It’s something special – something not everyone wants to wear, and not everyone can wear. In that sense, it sets you apart – and at least for me, it also brings me into deeper and more intense contact with myself.

Of course, sexy can also refer to chastity as a kink or lifestyle in itself. In my observation, it exerts an equally strong attraction on both lockees and keyholders, Doms, Sirs, and Masters. Subs or slaves probably love the clear label or definition they receive from it most of all. When someone sees a cage or chastity belt, they immediately get a better idea of who they’re dealing with – and can act accordingly. I find that incredibly sexy too: not having to explain much anymore, but simply being.

I’ve also often wondered whether different chastity devices can appear sexy in different ways – or whether certain models might even create specific effects. For example, I know many subs who care deeply about having a cage that’s as small as possible so their balls are nicely emphasized – full, round, and firm.

Chastity belts also have a certain sex appeal for me. They allow us to live out – and perhaps even display – our fetish in situations where it might not otherwise be possible to be fully naked. In those moments, the belt itself becomes a strong statement. And in my opinion, that has a big impact on the self-confidence of the wearer, making them feel sexier – or even be perceived as sexier from the outside.

Lastly, sexy can also refer to the state of ongoing arousal that a cage can create for its wearer. The mere awareness that you no longer have permanent access to your genitals – and may depend on someone else’s “mercy” to change that state – is deeply arousing for almost all subs and bottoms. It’s primarily about submission. And of course, it brings us back to the bigger question of which needs chastity is meant to fulfill… pleasure is probably one of the biggest ones here.

And maybe this final point is so central because every chastity device also has a certain tactile quality — something we can physically feel, sensually experience, and perceive on our bodies. That gives it a function similar to many other toys, gear, or clothing items: they help us feel, experience, and be present in the here and now. And when we can do that, we open ourselves up to a different kind of intimacy and closeness – because we’re engaging with ourselves, our bodies, and our desires in a much deeper, more direct way.

With that in mind, I hope that your cage – and all the thoughts, emotions, and sensuality that come with it – sweeten your experience to the fullest. Allow yourself to feel, to explore, to surrender, and to connect – not just with your body, but with who you truly are beneath the lock.

Enjoy the journey… and see you tomorrow!