How Chastity Made Me Grow
446 days locked
[2:10 PM] This morning I read an interesting post by Jazzmatazz on X/Twitter. He explored the connection between fisting and neuroplasticity — that is, the phenomenon that we can continue to learn new things and find them fulfilling even as we age, as long as those things feel meaningful and worthwhile to us.
I couldn’t help but think about chastity in that context, because I believe that wearing a cage can also lead to new thought patterns and new ways of relating to ourselves and our sexuality. I’ve experienced this firsthand. At the beginning, my cage was something new, intense, and arousing. Sometimes it was hard for me to even put it on, because just the thought of it triggered an erection.
Of course, I still experience my cage as pleasurable — otherwise, I probably wouldn’t stay locked up for so long. But over time, I’ve also gone through a certain adaptation process, one that’s led me to feel that my cage and I have become more and more of a unit. I now actually feel incomplete when I have to take it off for regular hygiene for example, because let’s be real, no matter what some folks might tell you out there, being locked full-time doesn’t mean you can’t remove the cage occasionally for thorough cleaning, especially if you’re, like me, uncircumcised.
What I find truly fascinating is that my physical arousal has noticeably changed through chastity. The stimulation of erogenous zones or penetration with toys and the like feels way more intense to me now than it used to. And more importantly, my relationship with orgasm and my desire for it has shifted dramatically. I find myself much more immersed in the moment — enjoying the tingling, the building excitement, the sensation of pleasure — while the orgasm itself fades into the background. There were even periods during the last 446 days when I deliberately avoided orgasming — whether on my own or with someone’s help. It just didn’t feel right, and I developed an almost athletic ambition to maintain my “literal” chastity for as long as I could.
Speaking of athleticism, that’s another area of my life that’s changed significantly since I started wearing a cage. Maybe it’s a form of compensation, but also because it simply gives me a strong inner sense of satisfaction, I’ve become much more consistent and motivated with my workouts. There hasn’t really been a moment in recent months where I skipped a session I had planned. So I think it’s fair to say that chastity has taught me a solid amount of perseverance and discipline.
In the end, I think it’s the same with most routines or new behaviors that we integrate into our lives. Once you get started and you feel a sense of alignment between your inner self-image and the physical sensation that a chastity device brings, sticking with it and making it part of daily life isn’t all that hard anymore.
That’s why I always tell people not to overwhelm themselves in the beginning or think that they’re only a good sub or slave if they wear their cage 24/7 right from the start. I didn’t do that either. I gave myself the time I needed. At first, I only wore my cage at home: one hour, then two, then three. At night I’d take it off for sleeping, and in the morning, I’d put it back on. I didn’t dare wear it at work in the beginning either — that was the next step. And from occasional use, it became full-time.
So as you can see: everyone should find their own rhythm and approach when it comes to chastity. What works for one person doesn’t necessarily have to work for you. So above all, trust your gut, take your time, don’t put unnecessary pressure on yourself, and just keep going. From my perspective, that’s the best way to allow the experience of wearing your cage to gradually form new neural pathways — until it becomes as natural to you as anything else in your daily life. [2:40 PM]