Confidence and Community
450 days locked
[10:22 PM] Today is a somewhat special day—because today marks exactly 450 consecutive days of being locked. I only became aware of this milestone this morning while chatting with someone on social media. He asked how long I’d been wearing my chastity cage, and that’s when it hit me — today is a “special” date.
Sometimes it feels almost surreal that I’ve been living out my appreciation for and joy in chastity for such a long time. Thinking back to how I started—with a cheap cage that didn’t even fit properly — makes me chuckle a bit. It’s amazing how much can change in just under fifteen months.
What’s also changed is how openly I talk about this lifestyle (I still find it hard to call it a “fetish,” to be honest). Sharing it proactively with friends and acquaintances feels incredibly liberating and empowering. Just a few months ago, I had major concerns about showering at my gym… now it’s part of my routine. Sure, I remain discreet—but I probably would be even without the cage.
Sometimes I even wonder if the regular gym members who train at the same time as me have noticed my cage… but who knows? No one has ever brought it up. (Though at this point, I’d probably find it amusing if someone did!) So beyond the discipline and perseverance that chastity has gifted me, it’s also helped grow my self-confidence in a very real way.
I feel like I’m more comfortable reaching out to others in the community, and I enjoy talking about chastity on online platforms. Sometimes I even get to offer tips about which cages are suitable for long-term or even permanent wear. That always gives me a real sense of purpose, fills me with joy—and gratitude. Because for a long time, I often felt very, very alone.
Of course, there are still things I hope will continue to evolve. For example, I’d really love to have more “chastity friends” in real life. And yes, I’ll admit: after experiencing Peter Cage’s “Locked Social” in New York this past August (HIGHLY recommended if you ever get a chance to go!!!), I’ve been itching to organize something similar here in Germany, where I’m from.
Honestly, I’m a bit surprised that there aren’t any such events here — especially in Berlin, where the chastity community seems to be growing fast. Maybe that’s just my personal impression. Still, I often wonder how much genuine interest there is in these kinds of meetups and community exchanges.
If you feel like sharing, I’d love to hear your thoughts — especially if you’re also based in Germany. Who knows, maybe it could lead to a new community event, or just an informal get-together or two! I honestly think there’s nothing more beautiful than connecting with other subs, slaves, doms, or masters about the fascinating world of chastity.
So — don’t be shy, hit me up! Until next time. [10:43 PM]